Relationships are hard, and anyone who says they aren’t is lying or kidding themselves. How to be in a successful relationship is not something they teach in school, and unless you’ve come from the perfect family, it’s not something your parents would have passed on in their genes. It also isn’t something you can learn from your favorite adult stars, no matter how many moves they’ve taught you in the bedroom. Thankfully, how your relationships work is under your control and there are things you can do to make them better.
Women find confident men very attractive. Being confident means you’re secure in who you are, your place in the world, and know how to treat your partner right. A confident man is one who doesn’t worry about their partner and what they’re doing because he knows their needs are being taken care of. If this sounds like something you aspire to, here are some tips to help you reach that goal.
Have Confidence in Yourself
Confidence doesn’t come naturally to everyone so you might have to fake it until you make it. There’s plenty of advice available online so spend some time doing your research.
Understand How to Pass the Shit Test
There are going to be times when your date tests your metal with a shit test. Knowing how to pass a shit test is important if you want the relationship to continue. Fail the test and your dream girl is going to walk off into the distance shrugging her shoulders and sighing.
You Don’t Have to be the Provider
The stereotype of the man being the provider is almost dead and buried. Women don’t all stay at home keeping the house clean any more. Don’t think of yourself as less of a man if your partner has taken on the role of the provider or makes more money than you in her job.
Being more confident in your relationship is about promoting trust in each other. You don’t need to be worrying about what they’re doing when you’re not around.
You’re Allowed to be Vulnerable
Being strong is an admirable quality to have but not when it gets in the way of allowing yourself to be vulnerable. If you allow yourself this feeling you’ll be able to learn and grow as a person.
Don’t Make Comparisons
Do you know a couple who seem to have the perfect relationship? Stop comparing yours to theirs because no two relationships are every the same. You’re completely different people with your own set of wants and needs. All you need to concern yourself with is whether you are fulfilling each other’s needs.
Stand Up for Yourself
You don’t have to cave in and let your partner get their own way every time. In a successful relationship compromise is the name of the game.
Have Your Own Identity
It’s important for each of you to have your own identities. You don’t have to do everything together and be in constant contact 24 hours a day. If you spend time apart doing things you enjoy it makes the time you spend together more meaningful.
A good relationship is one in which you’re both confident and at the same time understand your own and each other’s flaws. With this kind of knowledge, your relationship is certain to be a success.