By guest contributor Peter Minkoff
You love your boyfriend but you don’t like the way he dresses? Do you sometimes feel embarrassed when you have to go somewhere together and you know the clothes he will pick are not the ones you had in mind? Even though you should accept all of your partner’s flaws, it’s perfectly normal for you to want and change some things. And if you can change them, why wouldn’t you? Take a look at this list of tips and try to find the one that could work for you:
First of all, honesty is (most of the time) the best policy. So, if you dislike the way your boo dresses, maybe you should let him know how you feel about it. Be cautious, though, you don’t want to start a quarrel. First of all, you need to find out why he dresses the way he does. It’s probably because men like comfortable clothing and have no sense of fashion, and most of the time, they’re not interested in it. Be nice and cuddly, explain why the fashion sense he has is not OK in certain situations, and give constructive advice on how to change that bit by bit. Tell him that you also don’t feel comfortable in stilettos, but sometimes, you have to take one for the team. Moreover, you could nicely play the “me” card saying that it makes you uncomfortable when you’re dressed to impress but your other half is not. Perhaps he’ll buy that one.
Give him the clothes you like as a present
If you see something that you think will look great on your boyfriend but know for sure he ain’t gonna buy it – buy it for him as a present. That way, he will always have that piece of clothing in his wardrobe and he will feel obliged to wear it from time to time. It doesn’t matter if he’s happy to wear it or not, perhaps you will never change the way he feels about it, the important thing is that he wears it. If you have a birthday party that you have to go to together, go and try to find a perfect present for the occasion, and at the same time, find something you’d like for him to wear and present it as an extra present for him because you “thought he would look so handsome in it”. A little white lie never killed anybody.
Take him shopping
Maybe this won’t be easy, but you should always come up with an appropriate reward afterward. For example, ask him to go shopping with you and after that, you will do whatever he wants (and we all know what that is). However, don’t go to many stores that don’t have a men’s department, nor spend too much time picking clothes for yourself. Your task is to go and make your boyfriend like something that you like. If you want to get rid of those nasty flip-flops he’s always wearing, tell him he would look very hot in those men’s Birkenstock shoes that he’s looking at. If you see a nice suit, tell him how happy it would make you if he owned one, and point out to all the events where he could wear it. Since men like to sit in front of the stores while the ladies do the shopping, it’s of crucial importance that you engage him the most you can. So, if you’re looking for a dress for yourself, so that some other day, alone.
Most guys like to wear comfortable, sports clothes like sweatpants, jerseys, and such. A great way to point out the mistakes your boyfriend makes when fashion is concerned is to set an example. For instance, you’re going for a morning Sunday coffee in a local café. For this occasion, you can wear sweatpants as well, and thus let him know that for these occasions, it’s okay to wear this. However, when you want to go to a semi-formal event, make sure to explain to him the difference between that event or venue and the Sunday coffee outing. If you’re going to a football or basketball game together (which is always a good thing if you want to buy his affection a bit more because you’re about to do something nasty), dress sporty and say that you’re doing that to make him happy.
See? Nothing’s very complicated if you play your cards right. The last thing you can do is try and get rid of your boyfriend’s clothes you don’t like. If you “accidentally” ruin them or lose them, you’ll have to buy something new for him. Poor you. However, this one is very sneaky, and you are not allowed to do that very often, so we recommend sticking to the ones from the list. It’s not that you have less affection for your boyfriend because of the way he dresses, but little do they know that they need a bit of help in order to reach their full potential. You know what they say – the end justifies the means. Good luck!
Peter is a men’s fashion writer at Twisted Male Mag, living between Brisbane and London. Besides writing he worked as a menswear fashion stylist for many fashion events around UK & Europe. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips.