Does it ever happen to you to just sit there and and all of a sudden realize that you have no idea where the whole day has disappeared? Of course, you had an incredibly busy day, you did not waste a single second, you had lots of activities and goals to accomplish, yet you feel like the whole day has lasted for one second, you feel like you have just woken up at the end of the day, not knowing how you got there. This used to happen to me all the time until a while ago, when I realized what the problem was: the fear of deadlines.
Most of us are so stuck in our daily activities that we forget to actually live every single moment on its own. We are so prone to living in the future, that we sometimes omit to feel the present second and be aware of everything that happens to us in that very moment.
Life should not be treated as a checklist, but as a continuous stream of unique moments, each of which needs to be lived at its fullest.
Life is all about deadlines. Deadlines, deadlines, and again, deadlines. Let’s assume that you are a high-school student or an employee and you have just finished your classes or working hours for today, what do you do? You hurry up to get home. Now that you’re at home, what do you do? Hurry up and set up the table in order to have dinner. Now that you have finished eating, what do you do? Hurry up and get into bed because you’ll get up early tomorrow and start all over again. And it just goes on. Now, do you see where the problem is?
Our life is made out of small targets, goals, things that need to be accomplished in a certain amount of time, be it by the end of the morning, the end of the day or by the age of 25. And while there is nothing wrong in having some goals and doing certain things in order to attain them, our biggest mistake is that we are always on the run, so hungry to get from one point to another, that we forget to actually enjoy the trip instead of only focus on the destination.
We are so prone to living in the future, that we sometimes omit to feel the present moment.
I have realized the impact of these deadlines on my daily routine a while ago, while I was going home after a long day at school. It was an incredibly beautiful afternoon, warm and sunny, the birds were singing all around me and the smell of spring was overwhelming in the most amazing way. But I did not acknowledge all these wonders that were taking place right in front of me, because I was rushing to get home, too busy thinking about the homework and projects that I had to work on that evening. At the end of the day, what was more important? Worrying about something that would/might have taken place in the future, or enjoying the fairy-tale like surroundings and ensuring my happiness during that very moment?
Now, this is the whole idea when it comes to living a full life: you have to live every single moment on its own, because we only have a limited number of those in our lives and it is our choice whether we want to fully take advantage of each one of them or not. So forget about that project due tomorrow, or about the problem that has been messing with your mind throughout the whole day, and just take a second to breathe in and be grateful that you have been given the chance to be exactly where you are in that moment.
Our biggest mistake is that we are always on the run, so hungry to get from one point to another, that we forget to actually enjoy the trip instead of only focus on the destination.
Therefore, here is a precious piece of advice: stop thinking into the future and be present, make each moment count (like, every. single. one. of them), feel the wind on your face, listen to the birds singing, be grateful to be alive, and just enjoy the beauty around you in each and every second, because life should not be treated as a checklist, but as a continuous stream of unique moments, each of which needs to be lived at its fullest.
Photos by: Mădălina Spoială
Model: Alexandra Bulac