Caring about other people’s opinions is the biggest obstacle to your happiness, and the thing that will constantly draw you back and keep you from progressing in life. And why is that?
Glad you asked.
So many people these days, especially teenagers and young adults, tend to suppress their desires and even their true personalities because they fear of what other people would think about their actions. “What will my mom say?”, “What will grandpa say?”, “How will my classmates feel about me doing that?”. All of these are frequent and seemingly harmless obstacles, small thoughts which make you question your most genuine wishes and sometimes determine you to give up on some things, ideas or even precious passions of yours. And all of that because you are worried that your definition of “right” does not correspond to some other more or less random person’s.
It is of utmost importance that you realize the following thing: for all the people around you, you are just an idea, a second, a momentary entity. You exist for them only during the moments when they think about you, and after that you just go back into the darkness until the thought of you comes back to their minds. To everybody around you, unless we are talking about family or really close friends, you mean only a few seconds of the day, a fleeting thought, in short: almost nothing.
The key to happiness is not worrying about what other people think of you.
As I have already mentioned in an article that I have written last summer on my personal blog, the key to happiness is not caring about what other people think of you. First of all, you should be well aware that the people who really care about you will always give you their best advice and honest opinion, and they will love you for who you are, no matter how many times you fall.
Now, is it really worth it to waste your energy worrying about the mean comments that your colleagues make about you gaining some weight? Is it really worth it to beat yourself up over what your grandmother’s neighbor will think about you quitting college in order to do something that you actually love? – not encouraged though, unless you are absolutely sure that you are doing this for the right reasons and not out of laziness or because things have started to get tough in college.
So do you believe that it is rational to postpone your happiness and waste precious moments of your life thinking about those few seconds when you actually exist for the people around you, instead of using that time doing practically anything else?
Don’t get me wrong: not letting the opinions of others get to you is not the same thing as not thinking about the consequences of your actions. The point isn’t that you should do any random thing that crosses your mind because “why not?”, but to do whatever feels right and whatever makes you happy, regardless of what other people would say about it.
So many people these days, especially teenagers and young adults, tend to suppress their desires and even their true personalities because they fear of what other people would think about their actions.
To sum up, you should be very careful who’s opinion you choose to take into consideration and why, and you must also keep this in mind: you will never be able to please everybody. Each person has a different perspective on life and your way might never correspond to their way. Therefore, what matters the most in the end is that you pursue your dreams and chase genuine happiness without allowing wrong mentalities or people to draw you back.